He guilts me into fooling around with him!

Mate 1

I have a very demanding high-profile job in NYC. I am 28 years old and I commute an hour and a half each way. I work about 80 hours a week. When I get home I am TIRED. He wants sex ALL THE TIME and I just cannot provide it 24/7 as I get tired from working. He gets mad at me and makes me feel guilty!

Mate 2

He thinks that if I don’t want to have sex with him all the time that I’m not being a good lover and that I don’t care about his wants and needs. He thinks that when I’m @ home I should put work aside and focus solely on him…but work drains whatever is left of me after a 10-11 hour day!

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Erin and Danny (VIP)

i’m somewhere in between both sides here, as someone with a very high sex drive. i’ve had one relationship end because of it (among other things), and i think that was the best decision in that case. here? i’m not so sure. i think you need to come to some kind of reasonable compromise. he needs to be understanding of your situation, the stress and exhaustion you face on a daily basis, etc. but you also need to be understanding of his needs, of which this is one. don’t let him guilt you, but put the effort in for him a couple nights a week, if you aren’t already.
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	Dane find someone who also works an 80 hour week, then you won’t be going home to a little boy. about 1 year ago
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	yotleo You may be a delicious steak, but that doesn’t mean he can order you. If sex with him becomes your other job, you’ll will soon find yourself wanting to quit. Negotiate and then stick to your agreement. about 1 year ago
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	Jennifer So M2 is talking about “wants and needs” being important, but it sounds like the only wants and needs he cares about are his! about 1 year ago
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NATURESON

If there is something that Mother Nature has always told me to emphasis to people in relationships…It takes Love to start a relationship, but Maturity is the natural engine that keeps it going…The most natural question is…Do you guys love each other and to what extent are you ready to sacrifice to make this relationship work?…The answer will determine the level of compromise both of you are ready to put forth to make this work.

You as an individual should know that a relationship is a job on its own and your partner needs some commitment from you, Yes you might have valid excuses, so also will he have credible reasons…He has reasons why he is in this relationship with you, he has desires, so if you assume he should just bare with you and manage you as things are, he might decide to find an alternative… As for him, he has to understand that we sometimes will not always get our total expectations in relationships, and we either will settle for a compromise combined with understanding level of communication, or eventually opt out…

Sex is a nature that is not negligible…

Natureson…

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